I've always wondered.
How do couples who have arranged marriages actually do 'it' on their 'first' night? This question is with the assumption that they are not frequently making out at various points of their short or long courting period. This is the 'no kissing' 'no making out' virginal kind.
The reason I ask is one of my classmates from college was pregnant and had had a baby. Actually a bunch of them did but this one made me curious. I kept staring at her picture on Facebook all decked up in her madisar for her Seemantham. And the only thing I thought was "How did she know how to have sex?" Did her mother tell her? Probably not. Was this when her friends were sitting and giggling about how the boy at the next table was looking at one of them? Maybe. Did she watch porn? Probably not. Did her husband and her dirty talk or text before the wedding? Perhaps but maybe not.
Now all this makes me sound a little creepy and weird. But she was this weird little proper Iyer thing. Her dream was to finish her degree in Biotechnology, marry an Iyer boy from California, have a baby and ta daaaa :- Dream life achieved. In her Facebook description she writes "I am friendly and fun loving person." And now she's a happily married woman and mother. And I'm stuck wondering how she became one. She was just so...paavum and proper who thought I was a weird Iyer counterpart for only hanging out with the boys and going to the discotheque. I'm not saying all women had to be sexual masters before they got married for future offspring to be born, but then there are just a handful that I wonder about. You know when you don't want to think about something, the more images start popping into your head, and the more vivid they become....and then you're retching and wondering if there is something psychologically wrong with you for imagining perverse things.
Yes?
No?
Probably no.
How do couples who have arranged marriages actually do 'it' on their 'first' night? This question is with the assumption that they are not frequently making out at various points of their short or long courting period. This is the 'no kissing' 'no making out' virginal kind.
The reason I ask is one of my classmates from college was pregnant and had had a baby. Actually a bunch of them did but this one made me curious. I kept staring at her picture on Facebook all decked up in her madisar for her Seemantham. And the only thing I thought was "How did she know how to have sex?" Did her mother tell her? Probably not. Was this when her friends were sitting and giggling about how the boy at the next table was looking at one of them? Maybe. Did she watch porn? Probably not. Did her husband and her dirty talk or text before the wedding? Perhaps but maybe not.
Now all this makes me sound a little creepy and weird. But she was this weird little proper Iyer thing. Her dream was to finish her degree in Biotechnology, marry an Iyer boy from California, have a baby and ta daaaa :- Dream life achieved. In her Facebook description she writes "I am friendly and fun loving person." And now she's a happily married woman and mother. And I'm stuck wondering how she became one. She was just so...paavum and proper who thought I was a weird Iyer counterpart for only hanging out with the boys and going to the discotheque. I'm not saying all women had to be sexual masters before they got married for future offspring to be born, but then there are just a handful that I wonder about. You know when you don't want to think about something, the more images start popping into your head, and the more vivid they become....and then you're retching and wondering if there is something psychologically wrong with you for imagining perverse things.
Yes?
No?
Probably no.
1 comment:
YES!
-madisanji
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