Wednesday, May 17, 2006

Studying has become very hard to even attempt nowadays.I am blogging now with my notes on my lap.Instead of studying or atleast pretending to study with my notes in front of my face everytime my mother walks past, I am reading about the Besian school hostage crisis that happened last year.
My choice of movies is despicable but in books, its pretty fantastic.
My mother has been a member of Eashwari ever since "the days when I used to pick up Enid Blyton books for five annas.For forty five years I've been a member.FORTY FIVE."

I love Indian authors.I relate to their stories so much more.The first book I read was 'Aruna's story' by Pinki Virani.If I'm not mistaken, she also wrote 'Bitter Chocolate'.A book on Child sex abuse.The story revolves around Aruna, a young nurse who was brutally raped by a sweeper who wanted to take his revenge when she insulted him in front of fellow co-workers.He had also strangled her with a dog chain leaving her in partial coma for the rest of her life.Thanks to our judicial system,he was freed after..a mere SEVEN years on the grounds of 'robbery and an attempt to murder'.He hadn't murdered her.Her hymen was intact for she had been sodomized.Her family thought she was too much of a burden and left her to recuperate in the same hospital she was raped in.Her fiancee stood by her for a few years, resigned himself to his fate and married another woman who his parents had found for him.He was a doctor was absolutely besotted with the beautiful nurse.The story of how they fell in love had me fighting back tears.Resentment towards her family,anger at our country's lawmakers and grief that such pain should befall upon another woman.

'Inside the Haveli' was a fantastic read.It's written by Rama Mehta and the story unfolds in the town of Udaipur where a city girl has been married into a traditional family and their haveli.I believed that with her education and upbringing, she would cause a whirlwind change in the household by changing their rigid rules and customs but the book ends with her adopting their traditions and changing herself.

'Brahmins and Bungalows' by Kavita Watsa was very very boring.I expected it to stir up some fond memories but it ended up being like a travelogue interspersed with history lessons.

I haven't read the rest yet.But I did read Woman's Era.Its the WORST magazine you can ever find in this country.There is a particular column known as the 'How I Saved My Marriage'.The woman this month was born to a family of priests and she had married a particular chief priest.On a visit to Bombay, he had fallen sick where he had to be hospitalized.The hospital was mostly run by Malayalee nurses and he had taken a liking to one.Now the wife didn't know all this and was not a bit suspicious when he used to make his trips to Bombay ever so often.One day, as she took her son to pray at the temple before his board exams, she saw her husband sitting in a room with a little boy who looked exactly like her son.She 'wisely' told her son not to tell his father.Instead she tackled the problem by finding out the nurse's history.The Mallu nurse had separated from her husband.So the wife goes to the husband and pleads with him to take back his nurse wife.Mallu nurse and her ex husband were reunited.
And this is how the woman saved her marriage..........!
Lucky chief priest.He gets all the action and this is how his wife treats the situation.Perhaps to an extent,some women can never be changed.

21 comments:

Lazy Blogger said...

Woman's era is s*&**!! I always thought it was edited by a man. I remember their articles, they always wrote articles about how good women were submissive women, and how career women are total bitches! Femina is kinda better

Zaradin said...

@ lazy blogger-yes its bullshit.there are articles about how women should clean up the house and better their appearances in order not to irk their tired husbands who return home after a hard day of work

Anonymous said...

wow, the lady u mentioned in the last part of ur writing was wise .

these days , people handling things this way r less , she was able to keep the formalities of present and past .

Su said...

I feel so proud when I read my baby sis write about these things. Your reading list is so impressive. I am very proud

Su said...

I feel so proud when I read my baby sis write about these things. Your reading list is so impressive. I am very proud

Zaradin said...

@ sona-i think you missed the sarcasm.If I ever saw that woman, I'd kick her in the nuts!

@ paranoia-aiii..ore the emotional you are

Ganesh Ranganathan said...

My mom is a fan of women's era....you are right about it being stupid...

Anonymous said...

dear parvathy ,
if we can trace back the life of that lady , then u may appreciate her guts and action .

the thing is such thigs never come up ,
i agree with u if that was a well educated and knowledgeable lady ,

in this case she might havent had any exposure or so .

iam just trying to see thigs with her point of view .

yeah one more thing , if were in her place i would have kicked that hubby , thats different .

Zaradin said...

@ sona-what guts and action?how can you appreciate a woman who tolerates her husband who's cheated on her for a decade and also has a son.even if a woman is not educated and has no exposure, i think there is a certain amount of self respect that i would possess to make better decisions.its because of women like these that men like them get away with it

@ ganesh-ummmm..you better start substitutin some femina or even my mother's magazine called 'eves touch'

Anonymous said...

hi , i undestand ur point .
may b u should look things from all the point ,

ok , ill put it this way , and this is in general and not pointing to that story .

in the long run , ull come across people of all sort in both the gender and also u will start to woder what made the person do what he has done , and not what has happent .

lot of thigs do go in a family life as to make the couples happy ,
if a lady leaves the hubby , it can b easily put as a blame on hubby , where as in the other case the hubby might have left her cos she had some intolerable traits but this is also is blamed on the man .

i personay know a man , who is insane now and the reason for it was his wife .

i dont mean to degrade any gender i was just trying to say , tht there r many things which r never seen by people ,

regarding self respect , it has to b opened by someone , very few people r there who themselves open into that thinking , back ground and society makes a BIG factor in that , take my words for granted .

Zaradin said...

@ sona-Its going to be yearss before i get married but one thing I do understand is that any relationship is based on love and trust.Perhaps that sounds a bit optimistic and romantic but when that love is misplaced and trust is misused,is forgiveness the answers?
Everyday, men and women drive each other crazy.I'm just upset that a man can go start a second family which doesn't seem wrong in his wife's eyes.
When will women stand up for themselves if they dont owe themselves some dignity.
Anyway, if she feels that's the right decision,I guess its upto her.I just hope she doesn't pass on her way of thinking to her daughters and her son doesn't get influenced by the father.

Anonymous said...

yes , ur absolutely right ,any relationship is based on love and trust ,and those two should never b misused .

about that lady passing on those traits , i dont think it will happen , cos thinks r changing , women r awakening everywhere .

Theres a young wife (21 yrs ) who shook up a small village of andhra by forming a anti liquor movement in her village and the reason , her hubby is a drunkard and never takes care of her and kids .

now things r better for her , cos she was bold enough to do something.

women like her and u are the voices of today and generations coming up , and this wil all change the things coming up .

wish u all the best for ur life and hope ull b a good lady of ur words and b a good wife as well .

take care
and see ya

Da Rodent said...

"..There is a particular column known as the 'How I Saved My Marriage'.."

Check the author., must be a guy.

Zaradin said...

@ da rodent-idiot its a woman only!what an intelligent comment to make

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Su said...

Parvathi : How would you kick a woman in the nuts ?

Sona : I hear you. I understand that some women grow up in a society where there mind is really not evolved. They don't have the opportunity to be bold and make those changes. Women are aldready emotional and had 100 things to worry about. When they are confronted by drunken husbands and what not, the mind ( if not back cultivated properly) does not expand. Important thing is. I hear you ! Leaving your husband is not always the best choice. Today, we have family backing, education and strong circle of friends to support our decisions. Not all women have that

Hariharan said...

You have to check out this link ... http://www.gapingvoid.com/Moveable_Type/archives/002865.html

I got reminded of "I am the architect of my own dismay" ... :-)

:-D

Zaradin said...

it isn't opening!

Inder said...

Seems you are into reading quite heavy themes. Good for you.
I am perfectly happy with my Tintin and Lucky Luke and Asterix...

Hariharan said...

Try this then ... http://www.gapingvoid.com/masterof719.jpg

:-)

tris said...

watsa's book isn't that bad. The places she went to were historical so she had to include histor, I think :-)